(I swear that WordPress’ editor is trolling me right now. The next post I’ll publish will be a rant on my phone regarding this stupid bloody editor!)
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The Life-changing Magic of Not Giving a **** by Sarah Knight (I’ll shorten to TLM) is a self-help book that does exactly what it says on the tin (or rather, the cover). This book intended to be a parody of Marie Kondo’s The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up, but Knight’s version aims to teach us to tidy up our minds, by giving less f%$#s about things that aren’t that important to us.
- Put our own needs first
- Categorise our thoughts from things we care less about to not at all, descending
- To start what Knight calls a F&*^ budget, in which we treat the flying hoots we give like money; what do we want to spend it on? Is it worth the firetruck to giveth?
- To be civil yet honest towards others who are imposing these ****s onto us
- In essence, decluttering our minds
Overall, the premise sounds good, and I’ve sort of started to adapt to some of the techniques that the book outlines aka the NotSorry method. So yeah, this book has helped me be a little more mindful by not thinking about events, people, or other simultaneously (and this isn’t something anyone can do overnight). Knight goes through situations involving work, friends, family, weddings, donations, and social activities, and how we can use the NotSorry method in each circumstance. By giving fewer flip-flops about the nonsensical business that doesn’t really pertain to us, we can channel this energy to ourselves; doing things we really want to do without any guilt.
While has been noted that TLM is a parody of Kondo’s bestseller, I no longer felt the novelty within this text. In my opinion, comedy only ever works in moderation. For instance, if a sitcom’s scenes were punchline after punchline (accompanied by canned laughter), it would be labelled as lame and be panned by viewers. Yes, the cluster f-bombs littered throughout every page was funny the first two pages, but the more I read through TLM, the more I got sick of seeing the word. I grew jaded and was starting to think it was becoming try-hard edgy. I know that’s the whole purpose of the parody, but the joke was trite and the charm faded away very quickly. If I wanted to witness the F word in excess, I’d go down to my local pub at five, when the tradies gather around after work for a pint or three. Additionally, I find that publications that keep swearing to a minimum are easier to stomach and like. Otherwise, Knight’s writing (when she wasn’t swearing) is witty, clever, and engaging.
- Don’t be taken aback if someone accuses you of being selfish. As humans, we’re all somewhat selfish by nature and we all have our centric desires and wants. It can become harmful is when our wants are frequently at the expense of others.
- For some of us, it’s difficult to say the simple word “no”. We don’t want to offend others for saying no or saying you can’t come to a party, but it’s better to be honest and transparent by saying no rather than making up excuses or being ambiguous to the other person. The latter actions are kind of toxic to do and it may hurt the other person more than saying a flat-out nope.
- We can’t always think ‘IDGAF’ all the time. There are times when someone else requires your empathy, your ears, and your trustworthiness. While Knight does delve into this a bit, I don’t think she discussed it enough (TLM is a guide on how to put yourself first without coming off as an ass).